Lust for Life Program for Women

The care and feeding of romantic, social and family relationships is often central to a woman’s life, role and identity. But what about her most important relationship, the one she has with herself? Busy caring for others or preoccupied by her own past suffering, she may neglect her own needs or compromise her ambitions for other people’s priorities. Over time, she may feel like she forgot who she is and what is meaningful to her. She may see her body as unfamiliar and lack sexual desire. She may feel like she’s losing her lust for life — and she wants it back. 

The Female Journey

My Lust for Life Program™ addresses this familiar story that’s so common to modern women of all ages and races. We often blame ourselves for not being able to do it all, but we needn’t. Many societal and cultural forces and messages shape the woman’s path through life from early girlhood. For non-white women of color, there is another significant racial level of societal pressures to contend with. Messages from our culture of origin at home, compounded by the white American dominant culture outside, create a doubly confusing situation for us, especially regarding our sexuality. Yet by understanding how these forces shaped us, we can reclaim our lives and unlock our futures as powerful women.

On Sex

As a somatic sex and relationship coach, I create a safe environment for you to explore all the questions you have about yourself and your body. One big question that many women have is around engaging with their sexual selves. What is sex for? Who is it for? Why is it important...or is it actually important? How do I enjoy it more? The best answer to all of these is self-understanding. As women we’re not given the sexual operating manual to our own bodies and that can cause lifelong confusion. The truth is that we as women are the only ones with this unique knowledge and we must teach it to our partners. With compassionate guidance and mentorship, I will help you understand your sexual operating manual so that you can create a sex life that delights you. 

On Coaching

Therapy and coaching are on the same continuum of personal development work. (See testimonials below.) Therapy is great at helping you understand your historical context and the behavior patterns. Coaching is great at actively changing those patterns in real life so that you can begin to live differently. Coaching is transformational in nature and action-based. In my practice, therapists will refer clients to me when they reach this tipping point, or for special sexual matters like non-monogamy or kink/BDSM. Though not required, it’s great when my clients have some therapy experience because it accelerates progress in coaching.

The Program

Lust for Life is designed to help you discover yourself again as the amazing woman you are today in mind, body and spirit. So many of us are attached to who we used to be in our idealized 20’s or 30’s and are perhaps a little afraid of our adult selves. Through transformational coaching, I can help you realign your sense of self with the sublime woman you've become. You will meet yourself, know yourself and love yourself as the work of art you are now. It is absolutely possible to reclaim your lust for life. 

I would love to hear your story in person and answer your questions. Contact me for a complimentary 20 minute video consultation to learn more about the Lust for Life Program for Women. 

Testimonials

“I spend a lot of time laughing and crying with Sho-Sho! I look forward to our sessions because I know I will be pleasantly and delightfully surprised, pushed out of my comfort zone in a positive way and also very much seen and held safely. Sho-Sho has a true gift for taking people to challenging, uncomfortable places within, but doing so with fierce motherly love and protection. It’s important to me that she is Asian-American. Her identity informs her style of work. She is capable of holding an Asian person like myself in all my complexity because she too has had to fight for recognition and she continuously pushes herself to grow. Sho-Sho has a clear attunement to her inner life and is emotionally the bravest person I know. She doesn’t hold back or hesitate to say what is on her mind, but does so with such poetic and incisive wit that it goes down well. If you want to transform your being – to allow your inner light to come out and shine in the world – you will make your first step contacting Sho-Sho to guide you there.  She’s been on that journey herself and she will help you on yours.”  — Elayne C., 50, Asian-American, Licensed Therapist

“After being together for five years, my white male partner and I were in trouble. We looked for solutions to our constant fighting through couples therapy and workshops with little effect. However coaching with Sho-Sho has been significantly more impactful and raw. We worked through incredibly painful issues that I thought would surely be the end of us, race being the deepest. Sho-Sho helped us see that we were each at different points on a journey of racial exploration both as individuals and as also a couple. That reframe helped me be more comfortable and confident expressing myself as a biracial woman. I am now able to navigate heavy difficult emotions and unearth the true sadness at the root. Learning how to work with my sadness as opposed to my anger has allowed me to drop in with the most vulnerable parts of myself. Now my partner and I are engaged to be married after we rediscovered our love and found each other again. Sho-Sho brought us back to the foundation of our relationship that we forgot about — our beautiful friendship.” — Alisa A., 27, Biracial, Social Activist

“My confidence has reached a level I never thought I could get to because of Sho-Sho’s guidance. Being a queer woman of Latin descent, I was struggling with relationship heartbreak and betrayal, along with PTSD, racism, ancestral and family issues. Sho-Sho helped me see my worth, that I am worth love and patience and freedom. She helped me create boundaries that allow me to walk through my life with safety. One of the best things I love about our sessions is that my emotions are welcome and held with compassion, whether it’s tears, laughter or anger. She has a deep understanding of the matters of the heart and what it means to be a woman in this world.” — Annie A., 43, Latinx, Permaculture Expert